7 signs that you’re in a one-sided relationship
A relationship is a very beautiful thing, provided that the partners are on an equal footing. Unfortunately, some people are in one-sided relationships. The main reason for this is that some people need so much intimacy and attention that they would do anything to maintain a relationship, even with a partner who gives nothing back. In the long term, this type of relationship is unhealthy because it can leave psychological scars on the giving partner.
1. You’re pretending
Do you hide your emotions from your partner for fear that he will be annoyed by them? This should never be the case in a relationship of equals. After all, your partner should support you in all aspects of life. For better and for worse.
2. You put your needs aside
How long has it been since you and your partner did something fun? Then you should ask yourself why. In a relationship, compromises have to be made at one time or another. If the needs and interests of one of the partners become less and less important, this is a sign of a one-sided relationship. This shows that the partner does not value the other person’s hobbies and needs and only sees their own needs as important.
3. You are the driving force
Do the plans for dates, outings, or even writing messages come mainly from you? In a unilateral relationship, one of the partners always has the feeling of having to animate and “amuse” the other. On the other hand, the other partner always makes you feel like you are not doing enough for the relationship.
4. You feel mentally exhausted all the time.
This rejection of the partner leads to the fact that the giving partner cannot relax, because he is constantly under pressure to want to satisfy the other. One constantly plans, for example, romantic gestures in the hope of eventually obtaining recognition from the partner. However, one is repeatedly disappointed, so that at a certain point one is only mentally exhausted and feels “worn out”.
5. You constantly doubt yourself.
You feel that you are not meeting your partner’s expectations, for example, in terms of appearance, intelligence, or humor. However, it is not your job to please others. If the partner doesn’t accept you for who you are, they’re probably not the one for you.
6. You make excuses for your partner
Of course, sometimes your partner embarrasses you, and that’s completely normal. But if your partner often behaves in ways that you don’t approve of towards your family or friends, you should start paying attention. It’s not a good sign if you constantly have to apologize for your partner’s behavior to those around you.
7. You don’t want to leave your partner because you’ve invested a lot
This constant investment in the relationship makes it seem like you can’t leave your partner. You have given too much into the relationship to make it work. On the other hand, the longer the relationship lasts, the more you lose. If you manage to break up, you should take this experience as a lesson. After all, you now know what you do NOT want in your next relationship.
If you find yourself in either of these situations, you need to think about the reason for your behavior and possibly reconsider your choice of partner. Have you ever had a one-sided relationship?