Body language is a very interesting source of information for two interlocutors. You must have already met people who can immediately understand everyone, able to analyze a new acquaintance in no time. And no, these people don’t have magic power… It’s largely a question of observation!
By spotting some specific signals in your interlocutor, you will be able to detect the lie, be one step ahead of his state of mind or better adapt your speech (for the most honest!). It could also teach you to be careful about what you are showing off.
To self-correct or spot suspicious behavior, follow the guide.
1.Touching your earlobe = riposte in sight
In a situation of discomfort, it is not uncommon to see a person fiddling with the lobe of the ear. Teachers often notice this behavior after asking a difficult question to a student. What will the person who touches their ear do? He has committed a fault and is about to admit it or hide it.To get out of a delicate situation, he will attack you.
The face is easy to control, except for the eyes. They indicate changes in a person’s mood in a second. In humans, the same phenomenon takes place more quickly. When the pupil dilates, there is panic on board! Overwhelmed by stress, the person will desperately try to get out of it, even if it means committing a thoughtless act, such as a lie, for example. However, being overwhelmed by stress does not necessarily lead to a lie.
When you receive a compliment, observe the person’s eyes:
If her pupils are dilated, emotion overwhelms her and it is a sincere feeling.
If, on the contrary, they remain in the normal position, we flatter your ego
3.Untimely blinking = bad faith in progress
Words can fool you, but eyes never! When a person opens and closes their eyes frequently, it may be:
a tic that makes her unable to control the movements of her eyelids;
dryness of the eye; of a malaise that torments her… Why this malaise? Because the person is lying!
Other ocular phenomena out of step with an attitude: If the person smiles and their gaze becomes very cold: they are pretending to be in a good mood!
If the person speaks and their gaze wanders from one end of a room to the other: they may be hiding something…
4.Hand in front of mouth = something to hide
If you argue with a person who puts their hand over their mouth, it reflects an inner conflict. Well, unless you’ve just eaten and it’s a yawn, huh.
This potential conflict would be between a part of the brain that does not wish to express itself sincerely, while the other seeks to hide the truth.
5.Turning your head away = swallowing a grass snake
Lying while looking your interlocutor in the eyes remains very difficult.
On the one hand, it is necessary to avoid the unconscious reflex which leads the liar to look away.
On the other hand, it is necessary to ensure that his face does not reflect any emotion.
Few people can!
But the action of looking down can also be synonymous with submission and places a person in a position of inferiority.
She adopts this attitude for fear of the reaction of others, she dares not say anything.
His face can be interpreted as that of a guilty person, even if that is not the case!
6. The finger on his nose = Pinocchio syndrome
Pinocchio’s nose grows with every lie. Luckily, we don’t react that way. However, the tic which consists in constantly touching the tip of the nose can mean a lie. It depends on the origin of the stress.
If a person seems sure of herself: she is lying.
If a person seems to hesitate: they are sincere and they are thinking of an answer.
7. Weird handshake = disrespect
Beware of weird handshakes. Do not let yourself be fooled under any circumstances! They are generally used to place the interlocutor in a position of strength and to disrespect you. To start a relationship as equals:
Shake the right hand of right-handers, even if it is occupied.
Beware of half-outstretched hands or outstretched fingers.
If someone holds out their left hand to you, simply pause. Then, extend your hand as imposingly as possible while waiting for it to change hands, in order to restore balance.
8. Lips licked or bitten = uncomfortable
Particularly anxious people tend to damage their lips by biting them or passing saliva on them.
If you trigger this form of stress in your interlocutor, the latter may lose control of his emotions and be suspicious of you to the point of not telling you the truth.
Try to reassure him as best you can to put him at ease and eliminate fear.
9. Hand on the chin = operation seduction
The gesture of the left hand on the chin is typical of a friend who is always ready to listen to your confidences with attention and understanding.
This person wants you well and adopts a posture of tenderness for you.
On the other hand, if the left hand rests under the chin and the elbow on the table, your interlocutor is bored!
10. Leg crossing = several possible meanings
When it comes to communication, the positions of the legs reveal a lot of information about your interlocutor.
A situation of opposition: when he does not agree with the situation or the current conversation.
A situation of control: when he is comfortable and wants to assert himself in relation to a subject.
The posture of the ankle placed on the thighs reflects a feigned casualness, even immaturity.
11. A caress in the hair = need to be reassured
Small tics betray slight worries.
During a job interview, for example, it is not uncommon to see a person stroke their hair. She tries to reassure herself.
Touch indicates a person’s thoughts:
Scratching your head: thinking.
To caress the chin: to hesitate.
Caressing your neck: fearing the reaction of your interlocutor
12. Constantly scratching = impatience and exasperation
Compulsively scratching your hands or arms can particularly annoy your audience.
This gesture can have a meaning of impatience, discomfort or on the contrary reflect an attempt to open up to others despite a stress-related blockage. If you are caught in the act of compulsive scratching, explain to your interlocutor that this gesture reflects a reflection on your part, in order to prevent him from interpreting it as a reaction of exasperation.
13. Tap foot or leg = protection system
Constantly hearing the rustling of fabric under a table can be annoying. Not to mention that tapping your foot or waddling can cause a table to move and disturb its neighbors.
It is a protection system that is triggered in a particularly stressful situation.
However, it is easy to master this useless and annoying gesture. Before a job interview, be prepared to control your legs to keep them particularly still.
14. Hide your hands = I’m here without being
The behavior of the hands reflects people’s attention. While speaking, if your hands remain hidden under the table, crossed, or glued to your body, it suggests that you are not engaging in the speech. This one makes you uncomfortable. This discomfort can also reflect a lie or a misunderstanding of the subject.
If, on the contrary, they remain posed, without moving in front of you, you show your commitment to the discussion.
15. Show your hands = I get involved
Showing your hands during a speech supports the words with outward hand movements.
Doing this shows that promises will translate into action.
A good knowledge of body language can avoid pitfalls and make a good impression.